Encouraging Individuality in our Kids...

** warning.. images are not very clear due to a quick toddler :) **
This post was pre-written but due to having surgery and other family things I saved it for posting until now.

 

Today I'm going to tell you a story about baby J.

While he loves to play with his cars/trucks and to throw his ball. He also likes to be "pretty". He will be 2 years old in November and since daddy goes to work, he has spent lots of time with Mommy and his big sister The Princess...

It was recently brought to my attention that I shouldn't let him walk around in my high heels.

 

"Hmmm...." I thought to myself when this was said to me. "I don't know a little boy in the world who hasn't walked around in his mamas heels before..." I said to this person. I should know! I have 5 (count them!) nephews!!! This person responded with "well....MY son never did."

 

Again, "hmmm...." I thought. Well how about I show you some pictures here..



 

When baby J walked out in my heels this morning, wearing The Princess' headband on his head, I looked at him and thought... Why do we (meaning people in general) have such a massive gender stereotyping issue?? Does walking in my heels, playing with my purse and wearing my lip balm mean my son will grow up to be a cross dresser or make him believe that he is a girl?

 

ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!

 

Why is it that I am supposed to be made to feel (by other peoples standards) like a bad mom because I let my son have fun in his own way?? Why are we not encouraging our children to explore their lives to the fullest?? After all...all he was doing was copying what he sees his mommy and his sister do... Is it so wrong for our sons to look up to us and want to copy us? I don't think so..

 

When my son walked in wearing these things calling "mommy! mommy!" he said "I pretty!!" I smiled and said "yes baby, you are very pretty!"

 

Encourage your children people!! Let them explore their world so that they can find out who they are!! Your little girl playing with cars and super hero's  or your son playing with dolls and dress up clothes isn't going to ruin them! Let them be who they are.... after all - they are only little once...

 

~Casey



The Princess and the Morning Routine....

Let me preface this post by stating that I am merely sharing a little glimpse into my life. I am NOT looking for anyone to attack my parenting style or tell me what I'm doing "wrong".

The Princess has ADHD - yes we have seen a few doctors and she is currently on medication, one of several we have tried. We have done every alternative to medication that we had been able to find. Changed routines, changed diets, tried otc homeopathic remedies...NOTHING worked. It resulted in lots of tears and frustration. The meds she is currently on aren't helping either so we are working with her behavioral health doctor on that. On top of her ADHD she has some sort of behavioral issues. Its NOT a lack of discipline or being spoiled. She has trouble controlling how her brain is processing and lacks the ability to associate consequences.... why am I telling ya'll all of this?? Because it has a HUGE impact on my morning routine...

Every morning (usually) I get up at 6:30 and start to wake up the Princess.. It takes a while. She, much like her mother, Is NOT a morning person.. I am met with anger in the mornings because she HATES getting out of bed, no matter how much sleep she got. I can generally drag her out of bed by 7:00 and get her to dress...which takes FOREVER because she dawdles like you wouldn't believe. The dressing is actually the easiest part now because we choose her outfits for the week on Sunday and they are labeled Monday- Friday in her closet. Randomly throughout the morning I call out "come on ***** we are running late!!" when in fact we aren't, but it puts a sense of urgency on her to make her actually do what she was told.. When we finally get her clothed, its time to take her medicine which becomes a theatrical event. She doesn't have a problem with the pill itself, she just drags on the whole process of taking it. Finally once that is done its usually about 7:30 and we still have to put her shoes on which takes at least another 10 minutes.. I try to be leaving the house by 7:40 because it takes 5 minutes to get to the school and she likes to eat breakfast there, so I try to have her there between 7:45 and 7:50.

This morning worked a little differently. J had to go into work this morning (he usually works evenings) So I had to get all 3 kids ready. I prepared by waking up at 6:00 instead of 6:30 and started waking the Princess up earlier so that she could get ready...unfortunately it didn't really work out as well as I had planned. This morning when I yelled "we are running late!!" we really were! I had to feed little I a bottle and wake up baby J and get him changed and dressed with shoes on as well... the Princess fought and fought with me all morning. Squirted tooth paste all over her bathroom sink, took a half an hour arguing with me about how to take her meds and then got mad because she couldn't tie her shoe the right way...

I wouldn't trade my time with her for anything in the world...ever... no matter how frustrated I get, or how angry I am.. she is my little girl and no matter her differences, we do have special moments too..

Now for a little bit of a funny moment we shared in the car last week..
On our way to school I was lecturing her. I said "when mommy says it is time to get up and get ready you have to do it, if you are late to school they don't like it!" The Princess, looking out the window says "Yeah, I understand what you're trying to say..." (keep in mind, she's only 5!) I let out a little chuckle at her response and said "If you understand what I'm saying, then why does it take so long for you to get ready in the morning?" and her response was.... "well...I think maybe there's a turtle inside of me, maybe that is what makes me so slow!"
We laughed all the way to school....kids say the silliest things sometimes :)

Till next time..
~Casey

Absence....

Hello Out There!!!
:)
To those of you who may have read, followed...whatever, In the past.. I am back!

Here is a little update for you, and then I will go straight into a little school day rant for you.

First of all just after my last post, our lease ended at our old house and we had to move. We decided to downsize for a while just so that we could get caught up on some things and not "struggle" quite so much. So from August 2012 until February 2013 we had No Tv, No Internet, No Car... Fast forward to now...
We have TV, Internet and a car and...we welcome a new little one to the Paine bunch..

We will call him Little I. He was born on a Tuesday after only 5 hours of  (induced) labor and 3 pushes. 8lbs 4oz and 21 1/2 inches long! He was a BIG boy and is now 4 weeks old.
Baby J isn't so much of a baby anymore. He turned 1 in November and just keeps getting bigger and bigger! He is adjusting well to being a big brother, but cant quite grasp that Little I cant play yet..

The Princess has gotten SO big! She is 5 years old going on 15..and started Kindergarten this year. She also lost her first tooth this year which was really exciting!\

I signed up to be an Independent Scentsy Consultant back in March and so far so good with that, at least I can say my house never stinks! :)
We extended the lease on our apartment for 6 more months just to give us some time to adjust to having a new baby and to save some money for a move. So by end of February 2014 we should be house hunting for a new place to live, I am hoping to find someplace with a decent sized kitchen and plenty of room for all my babies.

I plan on starting a pretty good lifestyle change here over the next few months so get ready to see lots of "look what I'm eating.." and "weigh in" posts because I want my weight loss journey to continue. I also plan on posting more things I cook in the kitchen and crafts around the house.
Now that we are all caught up, how about a school day rant...

Now the 2014 school year started here last week.. The Princess is in Kindergarten this year and so far she loves it. I haven't been complaining much about having to wake up at 6:30 am..even though I had been up all night (every 2 hours) with a colicky baby, and we have been doing pretty well about getting The Princess to school on time.. only once have I had to go back home and then all the way back to the school because she forgot her backpack. But today in the Pick-Up line after school I noticed something...something I had seen happen before but thought maybe it was just a one day deal.. This white car comes buzzing up past everyone and whips into a parking spot at the end of the lot. For the sake of this post and because I don't know nor have ever met this woman..we will call her Michigan - because that's where her plates were from. Mrs Michigan sits there in her little white car waiting and waiting..when 2:30 comes and we hear the bell ring.. the first day I saw her, she backed out of the parking space and whipped straight up and cut into the front of the line and got out of her car to retrieve her child. :/ "hmm...that's not very fair" I thought to myself.. Then today.. I was Michigan pull into the lot again and wait..and wait...and wait... Bell rings, Michigan backs out of her spot and whips back around to the front..this time instead of pulling in front of the line, she pulls into the middle of two..count them, TWO handicap parking spots. She has no sticker, or tag for a handicap and whips right in there. Gets out of her car in what looked like pajamas and a sweat shirt and walks up to get her child.. Now I understand its not right to judge and god looks down on us for it, But I can not for the life of me understand why this woman can't wait in the Pick Up line like every other mother!!. If its important to her to walk up to the pathway to get her child, then why does she not park in the lot and walk up to the doors like the, oh..idk 25-30 other parents I see standing up there? And if she doesn't want to park and walk then why can't she wait in line??!! ugh...
I really cant stand people who feel entitled to things that they most certainly aren't entitled to... :/

Anyhoo...

Thanks for catching up with me and listening to (er...reading) my rant.
Have a Great Day!!
Casey